I write this not as a mental health professional, but as a single woman who has dealt with feeling lonely at times, especially during the holiday season. I also write this understanding that singleness does not equate to loneliness. I also understand that we can face loneliness during any season of our lives. Therefore, these tips may be used at any point where loneliness is felt. Also, these are things that have worked for me. They may not work for you, and that’s okay. I share to unite. Hope that at least one of these may be helpful for you. I share to let you know you’re not alone.
1️⃣Acknowledge the feeling. Give yourself permission to feel. To cry if needed. There is nothing wrong with you for feeling lonely. We long for connection, we were made for it. You are longing for what you were created to have, connection.
2️⃣ Reach out. Friends or any family you may have around or even in distance. Call, text, visit. Even if you don’t “feel” like it. Or even if you think they may be busy.
3️⃣ Move forward with daily plans as best as you can. Routine brings a sense of security and safety.
4️⃣ Do small things that bring some relief and even joy. Take a bath. Light that candle. Listen to that song and dance. Go to the movies. Drink that hot chocolate or latte.
5️⃣ Do some good for others. Whatever that could be. Send a card, a random gift, ask someone how they are doing, volunteer at a community organization. This allows us to shift the focus from ourselves to another. This helps with feeling connection to another.
6️⃣ Know that this too shall pass. You will not feel this way forever.
7️⃣ Know that God is there. Always. At all times.
I’m with you. I love you.